Terri Crosby

What Father Greg Boyle taught me about love with its sleeves rolled up “Love never fails.” Father Greg Boyle said those words on a podcast recently, and the interviewer replied that his listeners might think he was naive. So what does it mean to be cherished? A Lesson in Love: I understand the flinch. We’ve been taught it’s more sophisticated to stay guarded or composed, that love is a soft approach, and that what the world really needs is concrete action. We believe in standing tall and...

You didn’t do the work wrong — there’s just a next layer to meet You’ve read books. Maybe you’ve done several rounds of therapy. You’ve gone to workshops and retreats. Your journals are filled with insights. You understand your patterns intellectually. You can name them, trace them back to childhood, and explain them to a friend over coffee. And yet. Your partner, colleague, or family member makes an offhand remark, and before you know it, you’re defensive. Or withdrawn. Or you’re replaying...

What an empty wall can teach us about waiting for love Have you ever had a blank wall in your home that seemed to nag at you? It was too empty and felt like it was waiting for something? My friend Jim Vanderheyden, a photographer, reframes the bare wall perfectly. Don’t treat it as a decorating problem, he says. Treat it as a creative prompt. Being single, when you’d rather not be, can feel like that empty wall. There’s room in your life for someone, but no one is there yet. Waiting builds...